There’s this phenomenon in motherhood. The one where every mama knows that they are not alone in their feelings. Where they KNOW that other mamas are going through the same struggles. Where they see other mamas on Instagram being vulnerable and sharing difficult things. They know these things with their heads, but somehow and someway, they still feel alone in their hearts. We are going to call this the motherhood phenomenon.
It doesn’t need to be said, but I’ll say it anyway. Momming is hard. And the 2020 mom has had to be more resilient than ever. And the 2020 mom has also felt more alone than ever.
When we put out the Real Mother-Lead Survey, we knew that we would get very vulnerable and transparent responses. We also anticipated what results we would get when it came to the sense of community, and we found something very interesting.
A mama’s happiness during 2020 as it relates to community
In this survey, we asked women to rate their happiness during the pandemic from a scale of 0-10 (unhappy to happy). We also asked them to pick from a given list of words ways they have felt during this time among many other questions.
When looking at the women who scored their happiness at an 8 or above, we noticed that the word “alone” only appeared 20% off the time. On the other hand, for the mamas who scored their happiness at a 3 or below, the word “alone” appeared 75% of the time!
Wow…what an eye-opener. Mamas, we NEED other women in our lives! We need support, community, help, A VILLAGE to get through motherhood.
Why we need community as mamas:
To be reminded that we are not alone in this journey
We talked about the Motherhood Phenomenon. It’s incredibly easy to fall into the pattern of thinking that we are alone in our feelings. It’s not possible that other mamas feel how I feel…just look at how perfect they are on Instagram, right?
Wrong.
Do not fall into this trap, sister. We must be reminded that this journey, although unique to each person, is the same in one way…we are all mamas doing our best.
To be encouraged and to encourage others
Encouragement has a shelf life. It feels amazing to be encouraged and to encourage others…but that feeling doesn’t always last very long.
So let’s not forget it. Let’s continue to check in, send the text, make the call, comment on the social media post, send the DM, etc. We need to keep hearing what a great job we are doing as mamas.
To be able to ask for help without feeling ashamed
If anyone understands what you’re going through, it’s another mama. So, sister, ask them for help! If you find yourself drowning, reach out!
Even if you don’t have a close mama tribe, there are sure to be other women looking for the same kind of support that you are. Join mama facebook groups worldwide or even locally. Help is there…put the word out that you are looking for community support, and you WILL find your people.
To feel grateful and happy for the tribe in your life
Gratitude is everything. Having a community of support fills your cup. It allows you to turn around and support someone else who desperately needs it. I guess you can say that accepting support and community is a form of self-care…the more we care for our mental well being, the more we can love others.
We’re here for you, mama
It hasn’t been easy. We have been forced to isolate and that can be hard…we saw it in the survey…when mamas are feeling alone, they aren’t happy.
The MOMpire community is here…we are a community of mama entrepreneurs whose number one priority is to serve each other. If you are looking for a tribe…you belong here.
This wasn’t the only discovery we found from The Real Mother-Load Survey! Check out the Things We’ve Learned as Moms During COVID aka 2020.
